Anger Therapy Wheat Ridge, Arvada, Lakewood
Is your anger causing problems in your life?
Do you ever wish you could handle things better or differently instead of getting angry?
We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: Whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.
- Almost 9 percent of American adults experience angry behavior
- 1 out of 5 Americans has an anger management problem
- Anger is a normal, healthy emotion
- Anger can be unhealthy when it becomes out of control
Yes, anger is a completely normal, healthy human emotion. It can help us set boundaries and help us recognize when we are being wronged. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems— at work, in relationships, and in the quality of your life.
What is Anger?
Anger is an emotional state that may vary from being mildly irritated to complete rage. Like all emotions, there are physiological and biological changes in the body when anger happens: Heart rate goes up, blood pressure goes up, and levels of adrenaline may increase.
Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. You may become angry at a specific person (family member or friend) or event (traffic, new expectations at work), or anger can be a reaction from worrying or awfullizing about personal problems. Even memories of traumatic events can trigger angry feelings.
Instinctively we express anger by responding aggressively. Because anger is a natural, adaptive response to threats, it can inspire powerful, aggressive, feelings and behaviors. You‘ve heard of fight or flight right? It facilitates physical strength to fight and defend ourselves. So anger, therefore, is necessary for our survival. However, it is not productive for us, as humans, to physically lash out at every person or object that annoys us, things like social norms, laws, and just everyday events. Common sense helps us recognize and limit angry behavior.
People use a variety of conscious and unconscious processes to deal with angry feelings. The three main approaches are:
Expressing angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. However, you will need to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others.
Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn’t allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.
Being aware of calming skills and implementing them in situations that cause anger can be especially helpful. Controlling outward behavior, as well as, controlling internal responses and using learned skills to lower your heart rate, calm down, and let feelings subside can be especially helpful in keeping anger in check.
There may be serious consequences to your relationships, your health, and your state of mind if anger is not managed. Counseling for Anger management can help.
There’s good news. Managing anger is most likely easier than you think. With Anger Management Counseling you can gain insight about the real reasons for your anger and learn anger management skills. Anger does not have to control your life.
Anger management counseling helps you recognize your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes, as well as, a better way to deal with anger. You can’t always avoid the things other people do that causes your anger however, you can learn how to understand and be in control of your response.
Want to gain some insight about anger?
Want to recognize patterns around anger?
Want some real skills to tame your anger?
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I can help.
We can do this together.
Life can be better without anger.
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